Grievance politics are center stage all over the world. I think suggesting that people don't take the bait makes no sense. Yes maybe Jews could have survived without Israel but grievance politics also got women the vote, black people out of slavery, same gender marriage, etc.
Who designs the systems that generate resentment.
Perhaps you are suggesting that people do a better job distinguishing reasonable grievances from not reasonable. Or be more discerning in the leaders they vote to represent those grievances.
Who designed capitalism, patriarchy, racism, nationalism, and religions seeking to dominate? I think all of humanity did to some extent. If you are advocating for better class, gender, or race consciousness then great but that consciousness will in many cases increase feelings of resentment, not deter them.
The truly wrong conversation is the one where the accumulated history of Jewish communities in structurally exploitative intermediary roles gets treated as evidence of unique irrational evil against the Jewish race — whatever that means — rather than as a case study in how ruling power uses visible, cultural and ethnic minorities as buffers and then discards them.
I'm ethnically Jewish and as much as I'd love permission to solely blame "ruling power", Jews are frequently a part of ruling power and so that would backfire. One cannot simply say Stephen Miller is being used as a buffer and then discarded - he is evil in his own right. Nor can we simply ignore race as then we won't notice racism under our nose.
In other words if it is legitimate to ask if white America mistreats black America then it is also legitimate to look into any race's abuse of power. If it is not legitimate to ask if white America mistreats black America then we have to ignore all grass roots racism (which is a lot) and only complain about top down leader led racism.
There is a lot of good history in your article but I'm not able to parse what you are saying beyond that.